Midlife Transition for Women: Embracing Change

The transition period in life for women, especially the midlife transition, is huge.

Facing Fear and Confusion

It can seem frightening and confusing. We may dig our heels in and do anything we can to hold onto the disappearing past, which can cause immense suffering.

In this video, I spend a few minutes talking about the emotional aspects of these challenges, and below is a transcript for you.

Opportunities in Transition

This period of transition, by definition, is a time of huge opportunity and potential. I'm Michaela Weaver, and in this short training, I'm going to help you accept where you are right now and move yourself into a position of strength and power for the future.

Finding Purpose Amidst Change

This might seem impossible if you're currently feeling like there is no sense of purpose in your life. The family that you once had has kind of disintegrated around you, and you just don't know what's coming up. There may be fear about finances, where you're going to live, what you're going to do, or who you are.

Accepting the Present Moment

Our very sense of identity can be challenged. Whatever is coming up, wherever you are right now in your life, and whatever is going on, it is okay. It's okay to feel the fear, the sadness, and the grief. Allow yourself the permission to just let that be.

The Role of Resistance in Suffering

All human suffering results from resistance. Isn't it the way that, when I'm making a video, I have calls coming in and messages flying everywhere? Right, forget that. It is the resistance to what is coming up in life that causes the suffering.

Viewing Life as a Movie

If we were to watch our lives unfold in a movie, we’d turn the television off at the end and say, "Well, that was a good film." We wouldn't be upset by it. We are completely and utterly embroiled in it when it’s happening to us because it is deeply personalized. We resist and fight against what is already happening. It's like fighting against a rainstorm—it’s raining.

Embracing Change with Strength

When we allow what is already happening to be in the moment, we can approach change from a place of power and strength, not victimhood, powerlessness, or self-sabotage.

Self-Compassion and Acceptance

So, the invitation here for you right now, if this is coming up for you, is to put your hand on your heart and, as best you can, just accept what is already here for you in this moment, whatever feeling, and to do so with kindness and self-compassion.

Soften and Soothe

Just sit for a moment and say to yourself, "Soften and soothe," and really breathe out some of that pent-up energy. When there is any change in life, particularly when a change happens to us, there is resistance. If we decide that we want something, we're all up for it. It's when it happens to us that we feel powerless.

Embracing Uncertainty

At this point of transition, whatever the future may be, it is unknown and uncertain, and that can seem scary. But also, it is a huge pot of potential. Anything can manifest. Literally, you can rewrite your story and create a new future.

Holding the Void

Absolutely. Hold that void. Take a deep breath. The past—yes, there will be threads of it coming into that with you. They will come in more effectively, more peacefully, and they will flow. The things you're meant to retain will come to you when there’s that acceptance and openness that what is, just is.

Embracing Potential

When we learn to embrace uncertainty with trust that there is safety right here, right now, then that future potential opens up in wonderful and beautiful ways. You will just find things start to happen. This isn't coming from a place of no action when I talk about just allowing what is coming up and what is already there.

Handling Problems and Uncertainties

Maybe there are financial problems, uncertainties about where you're going to live, who you’re going to spend your time with, or what your purpose is. All of that will come from a place of spacious, kind, compassionate acceptance. When you are in that space, feeling into that, there may be vulnerability and tears, but you are in a place of quiet, centered power.

Stepping Into Your Power

When I talk about stepping into your power, I mean being in this present moment from a space of compassion, kindness, and acceptance. You may find that as the days and moments unfold, things will naturally start to fill this beautiful space of potential.

The Transition Experience

It's not empty, and I know it feels like that at times. I have experienced empty nesting and transitioned through all of this, so I absolutely know the feelings, and it’s okay. In the age-old sayings of wisdom, "This too shall pass." And that’s not wishing life away either.

Conclusion

Accepting and allowing what is, and embracing with a bit of maybe, just maybe, what seems to be this empty, unknown, is full of gorgeous, alive, energetic potential—a new unknown. And we are walking right into it. Take care.

If you are ready to find your soulful joy at this point of life, and learn to see anew, you are in the right place. Please book a call to find out if working with me is your perfect next step.

Book here https://michaelaweaver.com/book-a-call